Many people wonder when they first come to a tarot reader, what are the best questions to ask? What things are ethical or unethical for a reader to really answer? While it is OK to sometimes answer yes or no questions or to warn of a possible situation there are certain specific details that we should not as Tarot readers be pressured to answer.
1. A question that you really don’t want the answer to
A tarot reader is not trying to make things too personal or offensive for you. So, it’s best that you do not ask questions that you don’t want to know the answer to.
“If you are not willing to hear the truth of the matter or look at an opposing viewpoint, tarot can really come off as offensive,” says tarot reader and life coach Nicole Fortunaso. If you go ahead and ask the question and aren’t pleased with the answer, she recommends evaluating why you’re reacting as you are so you can introspect about how to best address the underlying cause.
2. Questions that already have answers
Our intuition always has the best answer for us. How many people have an intuition strong enough to already have an answer to many of the questions that are asked. And sometimes the cards will even tell you that once you ask the question!
3. When you’re going to die
You didn’t know the exact time that you were going to be born, so why would you wanna know the exact time when you’re going to die? Tarot cards are not for this.
4. Questions about other people
There is a fine line when it comes to asking questions in your reading that involve other people: If you want to know how to solve a challenge between you and another person or how you can show up better in the relationship to create more harmony, then by all means ask. When it comes to a relationship reading this is the only time that it is really ethical to ask questions about someone that you are involved with. Other than that you nor the Tarot reader has the permission to dive into the mind and hearts of others.
5. Medical-type questions
Tarot readers are not doctors. If a medical related yes or no question is asked, many tarot readers should kindly ask you to rephrase the question. That being said, you can use tarot cards to help you brainstorm strategies to improve your health. You can ask something like, “What do I need to consider to get my health on track?"
6. The same question, over and over again
If you were less than enthused about the guidance provided courtesy of the cards, You still should not ask the same question over and over again in hopes of getting some different answer. Though the cards will sometimes provide information you don’t want to hear, the truth is ultimately for your highest good. So rather than pulling yet another card for yourself or speed-dialing your go-to tarot reader, take some time to digest the initial answers and what they mean for you. That said, you're certainly not barred from ever revisiting the same question or topic; just make sure a good amount of time has passed since you last asked. My take on it is that you should wait at least 1 to 2 months before revisiting a life-changing event.
7. Yes-or-no questions
Tarot cards can be great for helping us evaluate different options or paths to take, but any Ethical Tarot reader will kindly point out that we all have free will. That means we choose our choices, not the cards. Because of this, yes-or-no questions aren’t very helpful because they don’t allow any room for the tarot cards to divulge other pieces of wisdom that may help move you forward. This isn't to say you cannot answer them with the cards, but you'll be missing major insight the cards are sending you.
8. Future-predicting questions
Tarot readers are guides not psychics. In the same way as yes-or-no inquiries, questions that predict the future imply that we don’t have free will and our future is set in stone. This is simply not the narrative to which tarot readers would like to imply.
"Tarot is just a mirror to your subconscious," Fortunaso says. "It picks up your vibes, feelings, and emotions and gives you an indication of where you are trending right now with the topic you are asking about. How you react and change your path is up to you." In other words, the tarot cards reveal what’s happening in your experience right now, and you can choose to redirect things if you please. So, instead of asking, "Will I get the job?" you can ask, "What do I need to do to get this job?" or "Tell me about this job that I am applying to."
To wrap up, heres a great list of questions you should ABSOLUTELY ask a Tarot Reader: